How Can You Transform Your Dreams into Achievable Goals? With Jeni Jonte

In this uplifting episode of "Soulful Self-Care Conversations," host Pearl Chiarenza chats with Jeni Jonte, a high-performance mindset and prosperity coach. Together, they delve into the art of goal setting and vision creation, sharing personal journeys and practical advice. Jeni discusses her transition from physical therapy to coaching, emphasizing the importance of setting meaningful goals and categorizing them into A, B, and C types. Listeners will learn how to dream big, align their goals with their true desires, and stay motivated. This episode is a motivational guide to achieving personal and professional growth by setting impactful goals.

• Importance of goal setting and vision creation
• Personal journeys of the speakers and their career transitions
• Types of goals: A, B, and C type goals
• Strategies for creating meaningful and impactful goals
• The role of joy and personal fulfillment in goal setting
• Overcoming challenges and distractions in pursuing goals
• The significance of self-care in achieving personal and professional success
• Building a supportive network and community for goal achievement
• The impact of self-image on reaching aspirations
• Embracing flexibility and adaptability in the face of life's unpredictability

Jeni is a high performance mindset and prosperity coach helping entrepreneurs and sales professionals to 10x their businesses. Jeni is passionate about serving and helping people and this work has been the most fulfilling and rewarding to see what people are capable of doing and how they can truly amaze themselves.

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Computer. All right, here we go. Good morning. My name is Jenny, and I'm a high performance mindset and prosperity coach. And I'm looking forward to sharing how you can create a vision for your future with Pearl. Hey, everybody. It's Pearl Chiarenza. And I want to welcome you to our new title show, which is now no longer Conversations with Pro, which had great conversations. But we're going to have even more in-depth conversations in our new podcast named soulful Self-care conversations. And today I'm so excited to bring our special guest, Jenny. She is a high performance mindset and prosperity coach, helping entrepreneurs and sales professionals to a10x their businesses. She Jenny is a passionate about serving and helping people and this work. It has been the most fulfilling and rewarding to see what people are capable of doing and how they can truly transform and amaze themselves. And I'm so excited to have you part of the show and to share with us today. Jenny, welcome to the show. Thank you so much for having me. Yeah. So I, I like to do this thing. And so the listeners are if you're new to us, this is something fun I always like to do at the beginning of the show. And if you've been joining us for the past few years, then you'll understand where, where, where it comes from. It's going to sound familiar, but I always, when I coach some of the times when I coach with my clients, I always talk about let's talk to the inner child. Like, let's, let's talk to her and see, you know, what was like life like for her when she was growing up. But with my guest, I don't want to coach you into your little inner child thing, but what I like to know is, what was that inner child when you were younger, wanting to grow up to be today? And so, you know, oftentimes we hear, you know, when we talk to our kids, you know, what do you want to be when you grow up? And let's say I want to be a teacher. I want to be an astronaut or be the president. United States, whatever those big, you know, dreams we have when we're little. And as we go through life, it's interesting to see how while we may not be the president of the United States, we might be our own presidential entrepreneur. You know, we may not like me. I want to be a teacher. Growing up. I want to teach elementary school. Why not teaching elementary school? I certainly am teaching women of, you know, my age and and my demographics and on how to put themselves first, become that zero of their lives. So talk to us about Jenny, your inner child. What did you want to be when you grow when you were growing up? And how does it correlate to what you're doing today? Yeah. You know, it's funny. I never really had like a solid answer for that question whenever I was asked, especially when I was really young the first time, I can remember having like a set, oh, I'm going to do this with actually in fifth grade. And I said I wanted to be a teacher, not because I was like, oh, I really want to be a teacher, but because I wanted to show my fifth grade teacher how to do it better. So I was like, I'm going to show you, I'm going to become a teacher and show you how to do this, where you don't have to give all this homework every night. You know, I think I was just mad that I had so much work to do. Um, and that was my first memory of having, like, a distinct idea. And then, you know, just from there, I decided pretty early in high school, actually, that I wanted to become a physical therapist. So I just went straight on to pursuing that. And I did do that for, um, quite a while. And, you know, it just was never quite as fulfilling. I felt like I was missing out on things, you know, people needed more than just that one layer of health. And I felt like I was helping people more on an emotional level. And that's kind of what led me into this new path. And yeah, so as a child, I think I always I do love teaching, actually. And, you know, we homeschool now and I love and that was a part of being a physical therapist that I love to do, always educating my patients. Um, so it wasn't like that far fetched, but it just my reasoning at the time was not as well. I'm like, listening to you and I'm going, but like yours, I love that you want to teach your teacher in fifth grade how to do it better. How many of us did not did enjoy getting homework? Not many of us loved getting all that homework, coming home and and now today, it feels like it's even more homework. You know, my I mean, my kids are are grown, but it's like, you know, it's like even more homework and I, you know, I teach them teach the teacher how to do it better. Well, you kind of are doing that. Like you're teaching entrepreneurs how to a10x or you know, their business, right? So there is a lot of correlation there to it. And then your home schooling I just had a guest on earlier today, Christian was the same Christian Elliott. He homeschooled six of his kids actually. He gives his wife the credit. He gives his wife the credit. But you know, he's a supporting dad. But I mean, it's it's it's interesting to hear these conversations. That's why I love to have these conversations because we all bring a different perspective to the listener and to the people that are watching us and how we can navigate this thing we call life, right, how we can navigate, how how our journey wants to be. And that's part of what our conversation today is. You know, you and I talked about, you know, we're we're going to be releasing this the first part of the year. And, you know, everybody starts going, oh, I need to create a vision board or I need to accept my goals. And, you know, and they wait till January 1st to do it, you know, and, and I often I, I was I share on my social media and to my clients that I usually start looking at this in October because January comes I like I want to get going right. And this year has been a little challenging for me because, you know, I had let's see, normally October, I do it like we had a hurricane. I do my retreats in September. So we came back for the retreat. We had a hurricane here in Florida. My son got married the next week. Then we had the second hurricane in here in Florida. So the October just went right back. And so then November was catching up. You know, from everything from hurricane, my amazing friend, you know, we open up our house to her because she's gotten displaced because of the hurricane. So, you know, navigating all of that. And then the holidays come. Right? So it's like I'm like like all in I'm like, I'm behind on getting my stuff together. Um, how am I going to do this? Right. So I actually took the time, you know, one night. One night. This is no lie. I was like, I need to get this started and this is what I want to get done. And so my, my goal was to get as much done. So I stayed up to 2:00 in the morning one night about two weeks ago. And I was like, this is what I want my theme to be next year. Like I want to enjoy my journey of life. You know, I've gone through, you know, two years ago we lost our son Matthew in a tragic car accident. Our amazing younger son, you know, got married. You know, we've had, um, challenges with health care, with some family members and things like that. So, you know, and then now, you know, my husband, the first, um, two months of the year, he's going to be having two different surgeries for hip replacement. So I'm like, I need to get my stuff in order so I can, like, get me jumpstarted while I'm having to navigate, you know, all these others. So no line. I stayed up to 2:00 in the morning and said, okay, I want to get done what my theme is this year. I want to plan out what my social media is and, and all of that. Right. So that's what was my goal setting. So I want you and I talked about this like, you know, we often get so wrapped up over, you know, what is the strategies to set up our goals. Like how do we how do we truly create this vision that we want for our future? And, you know, people do what they call vision boards. They have, you know, vision. This I do I actually Jenny, I don't know if I share with us when you and I talked before, I do vision purposes. I don't do a board, I do a purse. And I literally put it on a purse and and I'm actually we're getting ready to have our, our next vision purse event coming up in January. But I have this belief that if it's on something, I can carry, the energy that I put into doing that board is on that purse and and that comes with me where I go now. It's not a purse. It's not my everyday purse. It's a person I take going grocery shopping. It's a person I take going to meetings and things like that, because it's also a way to get people to go, what is that? You know? But so talk to us. Let's talk about some of that because you help businesses like the ten X right. So there's goal setting. There's you know creating visions and and all of that in that world. Let's talk about what are some of the approaches you take towards getting ready to goal set and set up for the year? Yeah. So well, one of the first things you have to do, you've got to know what you want, right? I think so many of us have these ideas and we just set kind of arbitrary goals that may not even align with what we really believe or what we really desire. And so one of the first things that I have people do is to just without thinking of any restrictions, no financial restrictions, no anything, just list out, allow yourself to dream and imagine and what do you really want? And you can do this for personal or for business side of things and just start listing it and just let yourself go and really spend time on that, because you can't set a goal unless you know where you're going and you know what you really desire. And if you don't truly desire it, you don't have that, you know, burning inside like, I really want this goal. This is important to me, then you're not as likely to achieve it anyway. So if you aren't setting the right goals, then you're not going to go very far with it. Um, so that's kind of one of the first things. And then I talk to people a lot about we talk about three types of goals. So there's just your A type goals. And you probably use something similar to this. But it's kind of like a lateral move. Like you already know how to achieve this goal. You know I don't say you've made 10,000 a month. You're like, my goal is to continue to make 10,000 a month, but you're not growing with that. You know, it's something that you've done before and it's not going to cause you to, you know, really work at anything different. And then there's your B type goals. This is a little bit bigger, but it's still like, okay, I know how I could do this if I do this, this and this, you know, so you have a plan or you have an idea like this could make this happen. So it's kind of stepping up to maybe that next level just a little bit. But I encourage people to meet what is called a C type goal, which is big and huge and like you have no clue how to achieve it yet. And so you've got to like this is where you're going to grow, right? This is where you're you, yourself, your business. All of that is going to grow by making these big C type goals, right? So if you already know how to achieve it, it's probably not the right goal because you're not going to be expanding at all with that. So those are kind of just the basics. And getting started at least in, you know, finding out what is going to be the best goal for you and for your business. Yeah, I love how you break that down. The A, B, and C because you know, you're right. We think about, oh, I already know how to do this, but what if I want to step it up bigger? You know, what if I. Yeah, I already make that, you know, $10,000 a month income, but I want to make 15, you know, so how do I or I want to go see and go big. I want to double it. Right. So you know, creating the those those visions and those goals and that, that putting it down on paper. I love, like you said, like write it down. Something I love to do with my clients too is right. I like to do like, what brings you joy? What on that joy list do you want to work on in your vision this year? Right? Like, what are we? What do we want to work on so that you can do those things that bring you joy? And what do you need to make that joyless happen? So let's put that on your vision board too, because who or what do you need to help bring that to fruition? You know, I think it's an and a dream big. I mean, there's dreaming big. There's nothing wrong with dreaming big. It's such a beautiful thing. I mean, I have, you know, my husband and I are going to be married 40 years in 27. We've been together 40 years this year. This past August, we celebrated 40 years together. But in three more years it would be 40 years. So I had this big goal of, okay, on our 40th, we're going to go to the Mediterranean. We're going to go on a cruise for 11 days, like I've got this whole goal, right. And so and I was like, it was going to be 2027. Well, I you know, I always believe too that you manifest it. It happens sometimes it happens sooner and sometimes things happen because they're supposed to happen in that timing. Right. And so funny thing is, is I belong to this really cool club where you pay$100 every month into this club, and then they match you, and you can use that match with what you've put in to book, you know, cruises, trips, whatever that is for you. So I've been doing it for like 4 or 5 years, right? So I decided I wanted to test it and I wanted to say, okay, if we're going to go, what does it look like? Well, you're supposed to, you know, as you go through, you do these little X's going, I understand I'm booking this. I understand there's no refund. Right. So I checked all those X's because I want to see the final box. Well I thought I was exiting out of everything and I actually. Yes. And I was like, oh no. And the thing was, I, I was looking at two, I was looking at a mediterranean, a trans Atlantic. Right. So I booked yes to the transatlantic and it was going to be May of next year. And I'm like going, Chuck's not even going to be ready to walk. He's having double hip surgery. It's going to be maybe before he's probably comfortable walking around. Right. So I was like I called the company like no you checked all the boxes. I'm like, okay, I'm going to manifest this. This is going to happen. We're going to go to the Mediterranean. I'm going to make it happen. So I literally the next day called the actual cruise line. And it's like, listen, I accidentally booked this. I really want this. Can you make it happen? And like, yeah, it's going to cost you a little bit more because transatlantic it's less expensive because you're going from the states over where they are. It's it's a little different. So I'm like okay no problem. So the difference was my, you know minor. So I pay the difference. And so this year for Christmas in a couple weeks I'm giving my husband a big box and it's going to say oops on it. And it's got it. So like so we're going to go next year. But my point in saying all that is. That was our big, huge, you know, that's our big, huge, you know, bucket list trip. And so it's happening sooner for whatever reason. It's supposed to happen sooner. We won't know until that happens. But, you know, that's part of like that's been on my vision board for years. I knew when it was going to happen, but now it's happening sooner. But and again, it goes to what we put on those vision boards, things, you know, we we picture it and it it's life happens in its timeline and we have to accept that. So I always I love that's why I like what you said A B and C because yeah we have the lateral stuff that you know this is I know how to do this. I know how to grow this. But B is like, I want to step it up. I want to bring it up. I want to like you're talking about, let's go back to business for a second. I want to bring up my income. I want to bring up the clients. I want to speak on more stages, whatever that is for you. What? What does that look like? So, um. And then the big, huge ones. What what if like, I love when you say, I always say, if you have a magic wand and you can get whatever you want from the genie, what would it be? Right? So what's that big, huge goal? Money's not an issue. Right. And so I love love to talk about that. So so we you know we we walk through this and you know we we we write all this down and everything. And then people you know, one of the things that I know when I work with my clients and I'm, I'm more personal coaching, I do I, I don't really I have clients that are business owners and I, I code work with somebody else who's that coach with them. But I do more of the personal development side. But when we take those together, one of the things they say is, okay, I have it down, I have this board, I've got this purse, you know, now what? Like what? What do I have to do to start making this happen, you know? And let's go back to what I said too, about when you start. Because I feel like if you start in January, you're starting about six weeks too late. That's my thought. What's your thought on that? Oh, I love that. Especially if you have a big goal that you want to achieve within the next year, and it's always good to put timeframes on them, right? I mean, as you know, that might not be exactly when it happens, might be before, it might be a little bit later, but it will still happen. Um, no, I agree, I think you should definitely start it sooner than that, because the big thing is now you have to suppress it upon your subconscious mind that you already have it, that it is already in your possession. Right? And that takes time. You can't. Especially if it is a big, you know, exciting but scary goal that you don't know how to achieve yet, then you've got to build a belief around it that you already have it, and it's going to take a lot of time and consistent, constant spaced repetition to make sure that you impress that upon your subconscious mind. So a little bit similar, but not quite as big as the Pers that you were mentioning. I usually have people write it on a gold card in present tense. So as though you're saying it already exists, right? I am so happy. I'm so grateful now that I am making $50,000 a month or whatever. The thing is, and you've got to you have to add emotion to it. You've got to get emotionally involved in your goals, or it's just words and it's going to just stay in your conscious mind. You're not going to internalize it into your subconscious mind. So that's what I have people do. And then you can carry that gold card around with you everywhere, right? And you say it to yourself anytime, you know, um, Bob Proctor's a huge mentor of mine. Well, he was um, and he would keep it in his pocket. So every time he touched it and for like 60 plus years, always had his gold card on him, you know? And so it just comes to mind every single time that, you know, that it's there, you know, just like you had with the purse and having all the details of your vision inside of that. And yeah, I love that. The gold card, what a great way. Like, it reminds me of the story I share about the Rock when I was overcoming people pleasing, and I'll share that a second. But I love the thought of having the card because you can touch it, feel it. It kind of goes back to the same thing with the purse if you don't have that purse with you, you know it might be something I might add to when I do this too. It's like, right, the one big goal you have that you want to carry with you, no matter what happens over the year, at the end of the year, what's this one goal you want to have and and have that on you? Because I really believe there's a lot to say about having I think that's why the purse came to fruition, because the rock story for me is I'm a people pleasing, I'm overcoming, people pleasing addict. So I you would ask me to do anything and I would been there to do it for you. And now I've come to the opposite extreme. Like right now I have a family member that's going through some stuff and it's their second time around with it. And I was like, you know what? This time I was all in for you. This time, I'm going to tell you and the people that are supporting you, here's what I'm available. And if I'm not like this morning, I got up and I text and I said, hey, no time today for anything to do with this thing. Um, I'll have to talk to you tomorrow, right? So don't text me. Email me nothing. Save it for tomorrow because I have no energy for that today. And so it's it's so powerful and it's it's what I coach on what I teach. You know, we have to set those boundaries. And so it took a lot of work for me to do that. Like my one of my visions was to start speaking and coaching more. And when I, I started on this journey to become a coach, I decided to take this class. It was called identity and Destiny course. And so you had six weeks and at the end of six weeks you had to give your Im statement. And I still was saying I was all the titles that I was wearing, I was mom, I was volunteer all this stuff and somebody that I met Shannon in the course, she called me out. She's like, where have you been? You still are like, who's Pearl? And I was sat there and I was like, oh my gosh, she's so right. I'm still saying all this stuff. So I remember after that course I was like, I gotta figure this out. You know, I sent my oldest off to college, my youngest one, he was very independent. You know, he takes after me where he can just do things on his own. And so I, I was walking one day and I happen to see this rock on the ground. It just caught my eye and I picked it up and and put it in my pocket. I happen to be on the way to a networking event, and I get to the events and somebody asked me to do something for fundraising around animals, and I was like, I looked at it. My hand happened to touch my pocket. I was like, no. And I was like, I literally said it just like that. I was like, oh, it looks like, oh, I didn't mean it like that. I said, I'm so sorry. No, I would love to help you with that. And I love my dog and I like the cat. We have somewhat, but I, I just, you know, animal fundraising is just not my jam. So I was like I was like I said no. And I at the end of the day I was like, that didn't hurt too badly, especially somebody who was doing everything for everybody. And so I made a commitment that night that that rock, I was going to move three times a day saying no to something or someone. And if I had not at the end of the night before, I went to bed, because, you know, when we show up for everybody and do everything for everybody, we can't we can't go after our goals. We can't focus on what our vision is. And we wake up in the middle of the night going, oh my God, I want to do that. And I didn't do that because I helped this. So I decided that I was going to text, email or call me and say no to them. So at the end of the day, if I had done that three times, that's what I had to do. And what came out of that was what, you know, I call my Shiro method. I became like so much stronger and understanding that no was a complete sentence, that I can say it as happy as I say. And yes. And then as I became happier, I was less stressed. I was sleeping at night, I was getting I was working on my goals, my strategies, my vision. I was seeing that stuff happen. And then I became empowered. I became empowered to be like, oh, if I'm on my path to my goal and my vision, I'm going to work more on that then over here for this person, because this isn't serving me. Right. And then what the cool thing that was happening, Jenny, was like, I was walking into rooms and people were noticing and saying, like, what's different about you? Like, did you cut your hair? Have you lost weight? No, I just was like, I'm showing up for me first, you know? And so the the funny thing about all of that, like we're talking earlier about your inner child and what you want to be when you grow up. I always wanted to be a teacher. I that was originally something I always wanted to do, so I was now doing that. It was just in a different capacity than I thought when I was younger. Right. So. So at the end of the day, like I as it was happening, I started working on my goals. I started, you know, I, I had this thought about doing these brunches, and the brunches have now turned into retreats, and my retreats are turning into helping clients more personally from the retreats, you know, moving forward. And so, you know, having those goals and visions, like you said, while they might seem small, they they do happen and, you know, go after the bigger one and, and and you never know what comes out of that. I love the card part. I love like putting a card in my pocket, like picking the. I think you just inspired me to pick what's my one big goal for the year and that make that part of my pocket, you know, instead of my my, my, I don't need my rock anymore because I, I'm, I'm overcoming that. In fact my people through through all of that. So if you're listening to us today. And your your goal is to overcome people pleasing, whether it's the rock, whatever you do. The cool thing that happened for me on that journey was, as I was saying, no, I could be like, oh, you know what? Jenny teaches you how to tell your business so much better than I could ever teach you. Let me introduce you to Jenny. Right. So my people pleaser was getting sage because I was like, I was still helping, but I wasn't doing, you know, so it was like, so it's so cool. So that vision of releasing that people pleasing was really part of the strategy that was starting to happen. So talk to the listeners about. So you've done this. You know, you've got this goal. Maybe you're carrying your pocket, your stuff in your pocket, but you have things that get in your way. You know, stuff happens because we know life happens. I mean, you know, like I said, two years ago, we lost our son Matthew in a tragic car accident. So I was I say, there's a day before and there's a day after, right? So my for six months after he passed my vision, my goals kind of just went haywire. You know, I was sort of like floating through life, you know? And so that's a big thing that can happen to somebody with their goals. But, you know, that's kind of a very unusual thing that can happen. But for the listeners listening to us, it's like, what happens if I get distracted? What happens if something gets in my way of my goal? How do I get back there? What kind of strategies can I use to get back on track? Absolutely. So there's so many things to that. Um, and I just want to say quickly, kind of along the same lines of what you were talking about with the people pleasing, because I have dealt with that myself a lot, and I also see myself as like a super person, and I think I can be and do all things to everyone. Right? So part of my and you kind of touched on that as well, is outsourcing things where I would have normally been like, no, I have to do it all. It's all got to be me. And now I'm starting to do a little bit more of that as well. Like, you know, those small day to day tasks I don't necessarily need to be doing. I don't need them to be taking up my time and start outsourcing. Some of that as well, I think just helps you to free up some of your own mental space to work on the things you truly care about, so I think that goes along as well. That's something I've been dealing with too, um, you know, in my own journey. And then. Sorry. And you were back to your other question. No, I want to talk about that. Outsource. That's a great point about outsourcing because you're right. We we tend to do, you know, we want to do everything, especially if you're in a business owner or if you're working a professional career. Like somebody asked me one time I was speaking to a corporation. We're doing a big trading. And they said, but what about, you know, we have to we have a deadline. I said, okay, so you have the deadline, but do you wait till the deadline is getting closer? Like it's like work backwards with the deadline and then look at your team and who can I out like you're calling outsource. Who can I you know, on the team. And what happens is when you do that outsourcing or if it's whether it's your team or something, you actually that other person, if it's to somebody that's going to be able to help you, you actually make them you, you know, you build them up because they're like, wow, they've got confidence in me, you know? And so they they want to do good, you know. And that that's a great leader too is like you can recognize who am I team can do this. And the other thing is we think as people pleasers we have to do it all because nobody can do it better than me. Well, no, you're going to learn from somebody else. Like you might learn how to do it better. There might be a different way to do it better. Instead of instead of driving a circular motion. Maybe driving a straight line is the best way to go. And they teach you that, you know? So yeah, I love that you remind us about outsourcing and that people pleaser needs to remember that. So write that down. If you're listening to us you want to outsource. You know I like you said that. Yeah. But but the question will circle back to is what happens. Like you've got this vision, you got this goal and something big gets in your way or something gets in your way. How do you get back on track? How do you not lose going? I mean, you know, people go, oh well it didn't, you know, I, I lost all that time. So you know, like for instance, you know, you start at the beginning of the year and 12 weeks have gone by, right? And I've learned from my business coach, Julie. She introduced us to the 12 week plan. Your quarter doesn't have to be January, February, March. It can be whenever your quarter starts, right? But sometimes people in their head think, okay, I've started this and oh, four weeks have gone by. Oh well, just forget it. Just it's not it doesn't mean anything. Right? But it's your goal. You put it down for a reason. How do you get how do you get your mindset back to getting back on track? Yeah. And I think there's so many layers to that. Um, so for one thing, there's something that I work with people on also is developing your six intellectual faculties. And, you know, some of those are like your will and your your memory, your intuition, your, um, imagination. And I'm losing sight of your reason. Um, but especially things like your will, like your ability to focus you, you know, things are coming in at you all of the time, right? Like, we live in such a world now that you have so much information coming at you and you can quickly get distracted on your goal, where you're going, your personal journey and what you're doing. Right. So even along the lines, you know, somebody could come along and some negative comment or whatever it might be that can derail you and you start to think, oh, I shouldn't be going towards this goal. Who am I to think that I could ever achieve this? I don't deserve that. You know, whatever it is, it could just, you know, get you off your tracks and really affect the way that you're going. So that's where your will needs to come in, where you can choose what to accept and reject of all the information that comes to you. And what do you want to impress upon your subconscious mind. So that's going to help you stay focused when some of those little things come up or, you know, somebody has something that has you start to doubt yourself and where you're going, then you can bring your focus back and remind yourself, why is this my goal? What am I trying to achieve? Because I tell you, if you have the desire for something, it's because your spirit wants you. It's trying to express itself in that way. So you're not going to have a desire placed upon your heart for no reason. It's there for a reason, and nobody else can tell you why that is. So you need to be able to stay focused on your goal. Now, as you said, some really big things can happen. And if that happens, that's okay. You just get right back into it as soon as you can. You know, like if a huge event happens in your life, like what happened to you is perfectly understandable that you're going to get stuck behind a little bit, because you've got to deal with that, and you just have to give yourself the grace and the faith and belief, knowing that it will still happen. Your goal will still happen. So if you're familiar with Nightingale at all and his work, probably. But like he would say, as soon as you set the goal, it's already accomplished. As long as you stay focused on it and you keep working on it and you stay in the spirit of it, it will happen. You just have to believe and have the faith that it's going to happen, no matter how big that goal is. And that's why I say we can tell our business it is possible it is 100% possible, but you have to have the faith and the belief behind your goal and the emotion behind it, and just acting, knowing that it is coming to you that it is going to happen. So as long as you can stay in that and stay in that frame of mind and you're going to every day is not going to be perfect, right? We all know that. We all have our days where our focus isn't there. We're letting somebody, you know, affect how our mindset is, whatever it might be, and then just keep coming back. Because you may not know, as we said before, the exact time frame, that it's going to happen, but it will happen. I love what you said. To the minute you write it down, it's already there. Like that's the first step, right? That's so. And it's so true. The minute you write it down, it's there already. And um, and to I like you the reminder to like to rewind. And I wrote that down. Rewind. You know why. You know what. What was my desire when I decided this is the goal I want to do? What was that for? You know, and then focusing on the goal. And the big thing, too, I like what you said too, is give ourselves grace. Oftentimes we don't give ourselves grace. We beat ourselves up. Uh, if I just done this by just on that, I love when I coach, my clients might look at life is not a remote. You cannot rewind. Trust me if I always say all the time, if I could rewind. There are so many things, including my son's passing. I would love to change, but I can't. It's already been determined. Like. And I think sometimes do I have to remind myself and my clients like you're it's your path is already done when you try to go, oh, I'm going to go left instead of straight, I'm going to go right instead of straight. You're just you're just deviating. Stay on the straight and narrow because it's already planned out. You just got to follow the plan. You know, everybody always tries to tell you on the TV commercials and everything like that. Oh, if you do this, you'll get that. You know, I today I was watching, um, I was on, uh, doing a post on social media about something, and somebody had shared an item, you know, like go, go get this and it's free and you can know why I, I do this this way. And somebody put in the answer and I was like, oh my gosh, that's so true. It's like they suck you in, right? They bring you in and then they go, oh, I'm going to give you this free. But if you pay this, you can get this. I'm like, I'm like, I'm so glad. And that's how we get deviated. We get sucked into, oh, we can get me there faster. But it's so fast. It's you are the pace you're going to set. It doesn't matter what somebody gives you. Right. And so we have to you know, we have to remember. Remember that it's the path is already laid out. Just stick to the path and and get help if you need to. So let's talk about that Jenny. Like with with what you do before I, before I talk about like getting the help One thing. Um, I want to talk about, like, you know, we're talking about the strategy and everything, and, and I, I always ask my guests, and they share. So I kind of know a little bit about it. But the shiro story, like your Shiro journey and, you know, and those that are listening for the first time, I'll remind you, Shiro means becoming stronger, learning to become happier, learning to live an empowered life, and showing up radiant in your life and being that original person you're supposed to be. And so I would love for you to share with the listeners what you put down about your Shiro story, which I know part of it was, you know, putting your self-care, the importance of your self-care. Like, you know that it's okay to go to the gym. I know you also talked about Bob Proctor, you know, and what he's done and changed in some influence in your life. Talk to the listeners about your Shiro story. And then I got some other questions for you. Uh, wrapping up the vision part. Yeah, absolutely. So I think it's been, you know, kind of a long journey to get to where I am at this point, and I'm always continuing to work on it. It's never a complete task. Um, but just some of the things, like I said before, I was a physical therapist, right, for a number of years. And, you know, during that time I was also working on my own personal growth and development and things on the side. And I never really was getting, you know, to the point. Like it would help a little bit, but it was never quite getting me over the humps and to where I really needed to be. And, you know, I think like so many of us, I have times in my life where for a long time I wish I could go back and change it. Um, looking back now, I realize that as much as those things sucked, uh, they were necessary to get me to where I am now, and I don't want to relive it. But I am grateful for the lessons that I have learned from them. And part of that is the importance of me being able to take time to work on myself, because I cannot Not be a great mom and a great teacher, a great wife or a great coach. If I am not healthy and I am not constantly working on myself as well. So in one of the biggest parts for me, like the physical part of just exercising has never been a problem. That's always kind of just been something that stayed consistent, you know, ever since I was in high school. Um, so just keeping up with that is important for me and making the time for that to stay physically healthy. But really taking the time to work on my mental and emotional health was one of the biggest things that I needed to do in order to be able to just become a better person. And, you know, like I said, I'm still working on it, but I have to set aside time for that a little bit every single day. And then Sundays I really don't schedule a lot of other stuff. You know, it's our our family time and just kind of a reset time for me that I really need. And I notice if I don't have that time of, something comes up and I have to do something on a Sunday that I don't normally do, I can feel it that week. Like I need that time to really reset so that I can be the best prepared to attack my week the way that I want to with the energy that I want to. So I do, you know, a lot of practice. In time, I've come to realize just how important that was for me. Oh, I can't. No, I was on mute. Sorry. So what I was saying was going to say is like, I love that, you know, you how you create the I like to call harmony because I don't feel like we can ever have, like, straight balance in our life because things get, you know, can come up like we've been talking about here, or things can change and come up and, you know, deter what we have that plan for. And so I love that you talked about that. But I also liked how you talked about creating, you know, that family time. Like it's so important that if you're listening to us like carving out time for your family. For for you first. It's got to be. You've got to be first. Like, you talk about going to gym and and making that time self-development, personal development, business development, all of that, but also creating the space to be able to have time with the with your family, with your friends. Because that's important. At the end of the day, you know, when I work with, you know, professional women especially, I share with them, like if there's so much on work, I'm like, so tomorrow, let's just put this in perspective. Tomorrow, for some reason, you're not here. They're going to slide something into that desk. They're going to put something into yours position. So why are you continuing to give them all of that time when really they're not going to care tomorrow? They're going to miss you. Sure they're going to care, but they're not going to care like your family cares. We're not going to miss you like your family misses you. And so that creating that harmony and balance and making that time like I love to talk about Sunday is family time. You know, when our boys were home, that's what Sunday was like that that, you know, all week long, like we were on this health journey and we used to have I call Sunday Safe Days. So Sunday we all make a list of what are the things we like to eat. And every Sunday. So once a Sunday it was somebody Sunday. So if it was mom's Sunday, dad's Sunday Matt Sunday Nate Sunday we would only we'd have for breakfast what Matt wanted and we'd have for dinner what Matt wanted if it was his Sunday. Right. So therefore everybody kind of got to have their, their fun stuff. And, and so it became this thing in the family. And even now, like sometimes I'll say to my husband, you know, because like again, like we lost our other lost our older son and my younger son Nate is now married as of October. But I love when it was Nate's day or my day because him and I, we like pancakes. We like chocolate chip pancakes. So, uh, Eric. So I have to say to my husband, can I have mom day? And he'll like you had Mom Sunday last week I go, oh, can we make it Nate Sunday? Then he's like, he doesn't live here anymore. Like, yeah, but he's still here in my heart, you know? So I still play the game, but it's it's just fun you know and and having and it's it's important because those are the things that our kids are going to remember. You know, I talked about going on this people pleasing journey and and overcoming people pleasing. And one of my goals was to spend more time with my family, especially my kids, as I went through this, you know, setting up my, my vision. And and so my strategy was, how do I make that happen? And so one of the things that I did was from a mentor, from a coworker. When I lived in Virginia, he would take one of his kids out every, every day. So every day he went with, he had I think he had three kids. So three days in a row, he would be out for breakfast with one of his kids. And I saw him one time, like, I see you often. And he explained that, listen, I have done this since he said he'd started when his kids were babies. So if you're listening to us and you're a new, new parent home, take notes. Guess is when you get your pen and paper out, he said. Even when they could not talk, I would take them out because a it gave my wife time when we just had one to herself, but I gave her a time with the other one or other two. And he said all the way through, even when they come home for college now, he said, they still look forward to going having breakfast with dad, because what he created was a safe space to have. As I got older, have intense conversations, he said. They could talk sex, drugs, rock and roll, whatever it was, there was no punishment. So if they did something that they knew they would get punishment. He goes, they would get creative and they would bring it to the table. But I didn't mind because at least they're being creative about sharing what they did. Like if they knew it was something they would probably get, you know, um, curfew on or get restriction on, he said they would bring that to the table, but he goes, I didn't mind it because then they really thought about what they did and I thought the seriousness of it. And then we could have conversations around the seriousness of it. Or if they had a goal they want to achieve, like, how do I achieve this goal? You know, he said. We would have conversations on it. And so I was like, I really like that. So, you know, I started late with my kids, but it's never too late. Like my kids were in high school when I started this journey with them. But the cool thing I have to tell you, Jenny, is the best memory I do have with my son's passing is two days before he passed. Matt was a huge football player. He loved playing football in high school. He played a year of it in college and I could never throw a football to him. I was like, I was horrible to practice with so I couldn't even throw a baseball. So he was here in the garage and my husband had a business together that they were doing, and they were taking care of some stuff in the garage. And he's like, hey, mom, can you throw me a water bottle? So I threw him a water bottle and he's like, you finally, not only have you figured out who the heck you are, but you finally have an arm. I'm like, I'm like, he goes, you can never throw a football, but you toss that water ball. That's the really, truly last interaction, physical interaction I had before he passed. And to me, what it also said was my kids saw me learn to put myself first, you know, and and that energy that we created together, it's so important because your kids are are a model of you. And so if you're listening, start that now. And as I got older, you know, if they got a school. Like I said earlier, if Matt wanted to have sushi, that meant that he wouldn't have a conversation with me. If Nate wanted to go to a movie, that meant he wouldn't have a conversation. And so we we still create that today. We still have those conversations. I actually just went to dinner with my son Nate and his wife a couple of weeks ago. My husband's love language is conversation, calling in and checking on him and he'll say, I have, you know, he won't say it, but I'll be like, have you heard from Nate lately? He's like, no, I haven't heard from him. I know, I know, he's like frustrated, right? So I was like, okay, now he's married. Now, you know, I'm like, okay. So I went to dinner with him and his wife and I said, listen, I too love to hear from you, but I'll just call you. I don't care. I'll just pick up the phone and call you and harass you. Right? But I'm like, your dad wants you to be the the initiator. He wants you to pick up the phone and call him. He's like, okay. And so he's doing that now. And they have oh my God, they have long, hour long conversations. So I say to my husband, you know, sometimes why he doesn't call you is he knows you guys are going to have these hour long conversations and he can't talk to you that long. So maybe you make it a goal that when he calls you, you quiet down, you know, so so it's, you know, it's it's just really cool how that happens. And you know, so in life, you know, as we circle back around and, and like what your hero story is, not only that your goals are important, but having harmony in life, creating that space. Like like you and I were just talking about the Sunday, you know, with our family, if you don't have family, like, what's the one day that you just work on you, you don't bring any noise from the outside and you just work on you. It's that needs to be part of your goals. Would you agree? Yeah, absolutely. Yes, because I can tell for sure if I'm not having that time in undistracted time or, you know, because so much of the week, even while we're spooling or I'm multitasking all the time, you know, and I want to be able to, like, spend that time of undivided attention with my family, with my kids and my husband. So it's so important. So can't let the hour go by. I mean, our time go by. We're getting I'm looking like, oh my gosh, we're having. This is such great cover. I love talking about goal setting and visions. So tell us, tell the audience, like when you work with your clients, what are some of the things you you know, you walk this through some of the the steps for setting goals and stuff like that. When you talk about ten X, like how do you because again mindset. Right? How do you help that entrepreneur break the mindset that I can't ten x my business. So how do you help them do that. How do you help them see the vision. Yes. And you know that's another thing that has to come in time. But one of the things that I also focus a lot on is your self image. And I mean you can never outperform your self-image. So you were talking about that thing that you did that was six weeks long. That sounds pretty similar in a way that you had to come out and know who you are. And so when you set that goal, now you have to decide what kind of person has achieved that goal, right? So how do I become the person that's already achieved that goal and become that person first before you even have the goal? And I mean just through the the time, the repetition and building those beliefs around it and really taking control over your mind, it all starts to line up and it's just beautiful and so fun to see people amaze themselves. It's very cool. I love that, I love those that are listening to us. Like when Jenny is talking about this, her smile is so big. Like she really loves what she does. And and so Jenny, anybody who wants to reach out to you, tell them how they can reach you. We'll also put it in show notes. So if you want to come back later and read the notes to the listeners and the and the viewers, please do that too. But let me know how they can reach you. Absolutely. So the easiest way is if you go to ring on possible.com, um, that has all of the links to all my contacts. That's fantastic. So I'm so excited. So if you could give us one. Um, and I didn't tell Jenny that we were going to do this, but just came to my mind. If you could give us one, um, uh, like, quote that it could be your own quote. So don't think you have to think of some of these quote, but one quote around vision setting and being strategic about what would that be like? One one piece of advice. Um, do not hold yourself back. Do not be afraid to dream beyond what your current results show. I wrote that down. Don't hold yourself back. And don't be afraid to dream. I love that. That's so amazing. Thank you so much. So, so we're going to do I let Jenny know everybody. So those that are new to the show and watching us. This is our better questions. Better life cards. My friend Carol Gill and her friend Diane Allen put these together. And so they're cards you can, um, journal over meditate on. Just read it to start your day. Um, I love these cards. My kids have these cards, so they're just a lot of fun. So tell me when to stop. I'm going to shuffle them. I'm going to stop and we'll read your card. So here we go. Oh, stop. Okay. Oh, this is a good one. I always like this one. How? This is this is a question I asked my my clients to. I talk about if you're not here tomorrow, Jenny, and we don't have the honor of talking to you. You know what? What are your friends and family going to say they saw you do for yourself? So this card says, how do I want to be remembered? Um, I hope that I would be remembered for, uh, being brave enough to step into, you know, something that was totally different at first than what I had previously done. Um, and stepping out to my own business and, you know, not being afraid of what that looks like at first. I love that I feel like this whole conversation truly has been like what you just said. Like, don't be be brave enough to to do something different and don't be afraid to do it. I think it's a powerful, very, very powerful. You should write that down for yourself, young lady. Oh, well, I want to thank you for joining us and being on, and I want to thank our listeners. If you enjoyed, make sure you like and follow and comment below. Follow us on YouTube. Follow us on all the podcast, Apple Podcasts, and all that great stuff you find in listening to your podcast at. And then also, I want to remind you that you come into this world. Life can be challenging and cause all kinds of tough things in your life. You've got this tough shell on the outside, but as you open it up and really work on the things we're talking about, set your goals and don't be afraid to dream. You'll find your inner world of greatness. And I hope today you had enough things to help you not be afraid and go after your inner dreams. Have a great day!